falling in and out of love......

we fall in and out of love with our friends. don't you think? we become friends with someone, seek people out because we like something about them. usually. there is either a common thread, an attractiveness, an element of mystery, something that pulls us towards a person, whether it be as friends or for more. Friendships of course, can be lost if your try to pursue more, or it turns into more, (lovers are on a different plane) but the ones that don't turn into more, that subsist on the friendship plane are of an equal sort.

we are friends with each other, and much often in love. not romantically of course, but metaphorically. we argue, and get frustrated too like lovers. ok, i guess there are some friendships that are just out of necesity or proximity, like a colleague, or associate or aquaintance, but when you suddenly find yourself at a party, getting to know that person, that associate or colleague and you find something interesting about them, all of a sudden they slowly begin to fall into the "friend" category, and you begin to fall in love. not romantically. again. i repeat. i'm talking about our friends. we begin to want them around, to talk to, in our life.

sometimes you may reconnect with someone, who you were either very close to or who was just an aquaintance before, and you may rediscover why you loved them, or maybe you were never able to really get to know them, and that maybe other people tore you apart. i think other people do tear friendships apart. the threesome is a scary concept for a twosome. friendships that begin as a more-some than a two-some last longer, there's less at stake. thats another story, i guess.

so. all i am saying is this. the people that you are friends with, i mean your best friends, the people you surround yourself with, associate with are people you should be relating to, and should generally also be people you find to be utterly and truly amazing and beautiful. if they are not so in your mind, perhaps question your reason for being friends with this person. I do. Maybe you've fallen out of love. People change, and we don't always susbsist on the same plane. Life is too short. It's ok to fall out of love. And still subsist on the friend plane, but does it really work, or does it just become more work? 'nuff said.