We live in an angry world. A lesbian tells her transsexual lover, a woman who suffers inherently because she feels as though she is in the wrong body: trapped essentially in the body of a woman on the outside when in fact she feels like a man inside, that this relationships is ill-fated because one is a lesbian, which by definition is a woman who loves women, and the other wants to be a straight man, hence no longer a woman loving women. "We are clearly different," she says. One hates men, the other wants to be a man. So the story goes.
We live in a political world with invisible lines and unspoken rules. A world where being a minority in and of itself does not cause one to inherit an empathic bone towards other minorities due to a similar difference of say gender choice, but where competition ensues regardless.
Gender confusion is one thing. Gender hatred another. Homophobia another. We can't accept one another for our egos, our baggage, our core schemas and beliefs get in the way, blur our visions and force us to hate. When we're only fighting different sides of the same coin: gender and sexuality.
The girl who is attracted to a girl, and the the girl who is attracted to a girl like a man would be, one could aruge from the lesbians point of view: that the transsexual is not accepting of homosexuality, wants to change her sex to that of the male gender and then live straight. This angers the girl who has turned her back on in many cases and is giving up the straight world. Since when did a transsexual fit into a heterosexual category is perhaps the lesbian confusion? To her, it's political. To the transsexual it's dysphoria and confusion through out life.
Remember we all have our own demons. No one else must live with them but us. The lesbian fights her own battle of homophobia and sexism, but must remember the path of reality for the transgender is just as much a part of the overall struggle and the big picture. The point is not to get so caught up in the physics of our views, but to read in between the lines and get your head out of the freezer.
