Last night my best friend and I had dinner. Unfortunately she lives in a different city, on a different coast, than I do, and we get together now maybe 3 or 4 times a year, if we're lucky. But there was a time, in our youth, in our past when we got to spend a lot of time together, growing, learning about our own identity, and the diversity that life has to offer. We were both fortunate enough to come of age together in this way in a city blessed with diversity. And now that we're separated, because we're also both blessed with the explorer-gene, can't sit still, and couldn't stay in that small liberal city, when I see her I am reminded of how often I forget how much homophobia we really have to swallow on a daily basis, out here in the real world.
Growing up in middle and working class neighborhoods of northern California, we were both, like most, exposed to extreme traditional views: get an education, get married, have children. And everything else that goes along with it, buy a house, work a 9 to 5, be a hard working mule doing an honorable job, and once married of course, stay together at whatever the cost. Both of our parents are still married. This is a simplified version of the truth, obviously, as I am short on time, as usual, but basically we were spoon fed this conservstive mind-set, which many people eat up and never question. Luckily for us, somehow, we got out.
We were freed from Suburbia, and let loose into the wild jungle, where we were educated on things like Racism, Sexism and Homophobia, and then some. We were taught to think outside of the tiny box we were expected to fit into. We were allowed to have thoughts different from the norm, individual thought. For me this was a life changing period in my life putting everything into my life into perspective. Making everything in my life a matter of politics. And changing my path for the rest of my life.
Today, although I live in this big city of Los Angeles, I am aware of the repression around me, and in this country. We are moving slowly forward on things like Racism and Sexism. Today in America there are several Black channels, and in Los Angeles there are Latino channels, Korean, Philipino, Arabic and Indian channels. We are becoming more and more aware of races, different cultures. We are also learning to appreciate more and more women in the workforce, making a living, yet still expected to raise children. We are exposed to more gay lifestyles on TV. Yes. BUT, I still meet everyday homophobic people. And as my best friend pointed out, it's now politically incorrect to say racist remarks. People in this country are now, increasingly, VERY CAREFUL about saying anything racist, or prejudice based on color at least in the presence of someone of color or a different culture. HOWEVER, this do not hold true regarding HOMOPHOBIA. It is, it seems, increasingly so perhaps even, socially accepted, if not EXPECTED to be homophobic. People are revered and respected when they reveal their homophobic views. People are applauded when the talk negatively about gays. It is socially appreciated to be homophobic. People of all races, people who have experienced racism, sexism, prejudice based on weight, height, disability or other are homophobic. We are expected to stand up against racism, but there is something inherently wrong with us if we take a stand against homphobia. Gay or not. What people fail to recognize is that as long as we are homophobic, or prejudice to anyone regarding anything that has to do with human variation then racism, sexism, or prejudice towards differences will continue to exist.
There was a study. About homophobia. The long of the short basically, the results: The ones that tended to be homophobic are the ones who were more turned on by homosexual stimuli. How's that for you America? By being homophobic and by preaching heterosexuality, you are really just telling on yourself, that you are afraid of your own feelings towards the same sex. Proving thus that HOMOSEXUALITY is a NATURAL phenomenon of human nature. That so many more people than are ready to admit to it are out there hiding it, lying about it, defacing it and living their life in the shadows of the bible, tradition and society. AFRAID to admit, and worse covering up their feelings by DISCRIMINATING those who are openly gay. Sad. Sad. Sad people indeed.
For this reason, I have dedicated my life to the promotion of ALL things having to do with sexuality. I strongly believe that at the core of discrimination are these gender defined roles and societal expectations, roles, rules and expectations who's boundaries cross all ethnicities and all cultures. The only thing that can cure world discrimination and prejudice has a little something to do with color, but has everything to do with our gender roles. And at the core of these roles you will find sexuality and the lack of openness to variations in sexuality is the cause of a lot of world pain.
Violence, and the state of the nation today. Parents don't talk to their children about sex. Parents turn the TV off during sex scenes, but sit with their children while watching COPS or some gory film like Blade. The message: Violence is ok. Sexuality is taboo. And, as my friend says, violence is ok, as America prepares its young boys for war. Yes. To join the military, The Military. Our country has become a military state. A violent military nation, who turns a blind eye when violence rears its ugly head and turns its back on education. Parents: talk to your kids about sex. Don't be afraid.
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